Color of Mine

Self discovery

Acting like you’re on a reality tv show
Cool it on the dramatics. The twentysomething brain finds negative information—such as reprimands from bosses and rejections from lovers—more memorable and exciting than positive information Don’t stoke the drama via Gchat and text messages. Teach your still-forming brain to calm itself down with what is going right. Twentysomethings who can control their emotions keep their jobs and relationships. Take up yoga. Or get a therapist. Or read a book on mindfulness. You’re getting too old to freak out all the time. Tantrums are for teenagers

#9 the Hit by a bus Rule

Would I regret spending my life this way if I were to get hit by a bus next week or next year? And the important corollary: Does this path lead to a life I will be happy with and proud of in 10 or 20 years if I don’t get hit by a bus.

How can people “think bigger?”
The people someone connects with the most are their influencers. I suggest they meet once a month with someone they want to add to their network: a successful author, blogger, businessperson or speaker who is willing to hang out and move dialog forward. People love to help, but beyond that, they love knowing that they helped us. But we don’t usually teach mentees how to debrief their last mentorship discussion. For auditory person, I have them call two weeks or 10 days later.  For visual learners, write a letter, etc. That way the mentor gets a specific object that gives them the feedback, and encourages them to do more of what is working. If someone mentoring me makes a recommendation—I have to do it. I have to read a book, watch a video, they suggest. If I don’t, it lets mentor know that I’m wasting their time.